Perfect Love: A State Of Being
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Perfect Love: It is In You, It Is You.
There are moments in life when love is not merely an action but a state of being, a complete immersion in harmony and peace. Recently, I had a dream that embodied this reality in its purest form.
In the dream, my husband and I danced together in perfect love, moving as one being, flowing effortlessly in unity. The setting was a grand castle with a rustic wooden charm, its dance hall filled with music and joy. As my husband dipped me and kissed me, I felt the warmth of love filling my whole being. It was a love untainted by fear, pure and unshaken. Later, as we lay on a blanket near a wall, chatting and giggling in delight, this moment of perfect love was suddenly disrupted.
An intercom crackled, and a sinister voice called out my name. The entire hall gasped as it spoke directly to me, "Emily, I am coming for you. When I get you, I will destroy you. So you better start running now." Instantly, I felt fear attempting to grip me. I turned to my husband and told him I had to run.
I raced through corridors, slamming doors behind me to keep the pursuer away. I reached a room where I sensed I could finally take control, shutting the door behind me. I ran to a window, struggling with its unfamiliar mechanism until I discovered how to open it. I pushed it open, removed the screen, and leaped out, running across a grassy yard, through a chicken coop, and up a hill toward safety. Then, I woke up.
Upon waking, the symbolism of this dream was immediately clear. I had been dwelling in perfect love, but fear disrupted it, and I allowed myself to be chased out of that state of being.
That evening, I went on a date with my husband, and for the first time, I was fully present—not out of effort, but because my desire to remain in love had been imprinted on my soul. Previously, I might have felt compelled to socialize with acquaintances or be more outwardly engaged. But this dream revealed that simply being in love with my husband was an act of worship and obedience to God. It showed me that love is not just something we do—it is something we are.
Love Is a State of Being
Love is more than an action; it is the essence of God Himself. Scripture affirms this truth repeatedly:
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1 John 4:16 – "And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them." Love is not separate from God—it is His very nature. When we abide in love, we abide in Him.
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1 Corinthians 13:8 – "Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away." Love is eternal, unwavering, and constant. It does not fade or fail but remains beyond all temporary things.
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Romans 5:5 – "And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us." Love is already within us, not something we must strive to attain but something we are given freely by God.
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Romans 8:38-39 – "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." Nothing external can remove us from love because love is not dependent on circumstances; it is a state of being.
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1 John 4:18 – "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love." My dream demonstrated this truth—fear tried to take me away from love, but love itself is the force that drives out fear. Perfect love leaves no room for fear.
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John 13:34-35 – "A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another." Love is not just an action but an identity. It is how we are known.
Love, Truth, and the Power to Heal
When we are in a state of love, we carry the authority to heal. Healing does not come through effort alone but through believing and abiding in the truth that God lives in us. We are the dwelling place, the temple of the Holy Spirit, the manifestation of God’s presence. Jesus, the Holy Spirit, and the Father are all part of the Godhead that is love. If we believe in the truth of what God has spoken, we step into our rightful authority in Him.
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Truth, Spirit, and Love are the foundation of healing.
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You cannot heal with a lie—truth is essential.
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You cannot heal without Spirit—the power of God moves through us.
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You cannot heal without love—love is the conduit through which healing flows.
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Jesus healed because He was fully one with the Father, living in a state of love, truth, and Spirit. When we follow in His steps, believing the words He spoke, we operate from this same power. Healing is not something external; it is an overflow of the love we dwell in. When we embrace the reality that perfect love is not just a feeling but a state of being, we step into a deeper alignment with God’s will and authority.
Living in the Flow of Love
This dream transformed my understanding of love in daily life. Love is not about performing for others, fulfilling obligations, or proving one’s faith through effort. Rather, it is about allowing God’s presence to take up the most space within me so that my actions flow naturally from a place of being love.
By focusing on the love I share with my husband, I am walking in alignment with God’s design for marriage. Love is not a duty; it is a presence. It is not a performance; it is a way of existing. My obedience to God is not in trying to be loving but in simply being love—living from the overflow of what God has already poured into me.
Fear will always try to disrupt perfect love. The enemy seeks to pull us out of that state, making us believe love is something we must earn or protect rather than something we inherently are when we abide in God. But when we reject fear and remain in love, we experience the truest form of worship—the presence of God within us, flowing through every part of our lives.
Breaking Down Perfect Love
1. Perfect Love is a State of Harmony with God
- Perfect Love is the full alignment with God's will and nature. It is the oneness Jesus prayed for in John 17:21:
"That all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you." - When we live in this state, our thoughts, emotions, and actions flow naturally from love, rather than fear, doubt, or striving.
Reflection Question: What does harmony with God feel like in your daily life? How do you recognize when you are in alignment?
2. Perfect Love is Not Restricted by Fear
- Fear is the antithesis of love because it is rooted in separation, whereas love is rooted in connection.
- 1 John 4:18 states, “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
- When love is perfected in us, we are not governed by fear of loss, rejection, or punishment. Instead, we are free to love fully, without limitation.
Exercise: Recall a moment when fear held you back from love. How would you have responded differently if love, rather than fear, was leading you?
3. Perfect Love Becomes What We Embody
Definition of Embodiment:
- Embodiment means living as the physical manifestation of a truth or concept.
- In the case of Perfect Love, we don’t just believe in love—we become love.
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Galatians 2:20 – “It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me.”
- To embody Perfect Love means to live as an extension of Christ’s love in the world.
- Love is no longer something we try to do—it naturally overflows from us.
Challenge: How can you embody love in a challenging situation this week? Instead of focusing on how to "act loving," focus on being love.
4. Perfect Love Casts Out Evil
- Love is not passive—it is a force that casts out darkness, fear, and evil.
- Jesus' miracles were acts of love that displaced evil.
- Mark 16:17 – “These signs will accompany those who believe: In my name they will drive out demons.”
- When we operate in Perfect Love, there is no room for oppression, fear, or the enemy’s influence.
Action Step: Speak out Perfect Love today. Where there is fear, bring love. Where there is conflict, bring peace. Where there is pain, bring healing.
5. Perfect Love is the Foundation of Miracles
- Miracles are not separate from love; they are an overflow of divine love.
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Matthew 14:14 – “When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them and healed their sick.”
- Compassion activated the miraculous.
- Miracles are expressions of restoration, reconciliation, and redemption—all rooted in love.
- Faith works through love (Galatians 5:6). Without love, faith has no foundation.
Question for Meditation: If miracles are an overflow of Perfect Love, how does this shift your approach to prayer and faith?
Final Reflection
Perfect Love is not something we need to strive for—it is something we surrender to. When we stop trying to manufacture love and instead allow God’s love to flow through us, we step into the reality of miracles, healing, and divine presence.
Perfect love is a state of being, a reality that is always available to us. It is not dependent on how others perceive us, nor is it rooted in striving to please God out of fear. It is resting in His presence, allowing love to be the loudest voice we hear.
When we live in love, we live in God. And in that place, fear has no power. We are no longer running—we are abiding.
How can you live in this state today? Let love not be an act, but your existence.